The Soundtrack of My Life

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Necessary Commentary, Pt. 2: Love Songs

on July 14, 2010

Part 2 of Necessary Commentary: Love Songs

Reecie: “Mary’s Joint” I think actually fits well as a follow up to Badu. If the term “recovering undercover over lover” was thought of in 1994, I’m sure Mary would’ve stamped it as her title as well.

LaBakir: She sure would’ve.  It took that woman a minute to get over K-Ci.  I’ve actually have no recollection of ever hearing this song.  The production is classic 90’s R&B.  Especially the  percussion.

Reecie: “I know that you’re just a man, but you’re all the man I need…” from the opening line, I want to throw my hands in the air. As we all know that My Life is Mary’s most coveted release by her fans, dating back to a tumultuous time in her life. We can speculate that every single song is about her off and on again relationship with K-Ci from Jodeci. The type of destructive, confusing, intense love that many of us may not have experience to that extent, but still we can relate. This CD came out when I was in high school, and you couldn’t tell me back then that everything was REAL and deep and so SERIOUS. lol. Every relationship was! ha.

LaBakir: Mary definitely makes that hand waving music.  Although this is one of her more laid back songs vocally, the lyrics are still very “real”.

Reecie: Even still as an adult I revisit these songs and they are still relevant in my life. I like this song because its one of the most underrated on the CD, but lyrically it’s so telling, so pleading. “You promised that you never would cheat or lie, lie to me, don’t lie to me babe. And you promised that you’d trust and believe in me, please believe in me”

LaBakir: If her repetition isn’t a sign of her sincerity, I don’t know what is.

Why can’t we work it out? My baby can we try? You said our love would always stand the test of time.” At the end of the song for almost two minutes those lyrics are repeated.  I think it displays her desperation and the craziness she was experiencing at the time.  She wants answers that she probably won’t get.  But when you’re experiencing that crazy kind of love, you’ll keep trying… and repeating until you’re blue in the face.

Reecie: Mary has never been the best singer to me, but she’s my favorite female artist simply because of the raw emotion. She’s begging him and trying to convince herself at the same time. She wants to go, but no. She’s gonna wait. Yes. She’s willing to wait for him to come to his senses. To remember the things he’s told her–they will move forward together. Even better than before. This sometimes works, but almost always doesn’t. Even still, she’s hopeful because it just hurts too much not to be.

LaBakir: It’s as if the pain and hurt (although toxic) was so familiar to her…she’d rather stay around and try to change that than leave and explore other options.  As a Taurus, I can relate to that type of stubborn resilience…but sometimes you just gotta know when to let it burn.  Not everybody is worth your efforts, ya know?

Reecie: Now moving on to more romantic side of love. First of all, I think Tamia is extremely underrated. Ever since I first heard her on Q’s Jook Joint I’ve been a fan of her voice. This song is syrupy sweet to me. I think it’s a good wedding song, even though it describes everything about a relationship up until that point (the good things). I mean how can you not LOVE “When it comes to you I wouldn’t change a thing, I wouldn’t even change the things I could change. Cause baby you’re perfect, perfect to me. Simply means that you are perfect for me. You’re the answer to a prayer I haven’t prayed….”

LaBakir: This is my first time hearing this song as well.  And syrupy is an understatement. The lyrics will give you diabetes.  It’s definitely an over-the-top kind of love song.  Sort of unrealistically beautiful, ya know?  I mean this chick is head over heels with dude and definitely has created some well thought out scenarios.  But that’s what love will do to ya.

Reecie: “You’re the answer to a prayer I haven’t prayed?!” Whooo baby! That’s something special right there. From beginning to end, this song does it for me. But what can I say, I’m a hopeless romantic.

LaBakir: I can be a hopeless romantic as well Reecie.  But I must say, I’m not impressed with Tamia’s vocals.  I KNOW she can sang.  “You Put a Move on My Heart” is the perfect example.  Or the joint with Eric Benet “Spend My Life with You”. I just wish she would’ve displayed more of her talent instead of this Janet Jackson-esque singing.  I think it would’ve added a little more “substance” to the lyrics.  On second thought I suppose her vocals compliment the production. #shrug

Reecie: This song speaks on many “firsts” of a relationship. The giddy things that are part of “The Newness” tm Eric Roberson. The first kiss, the first time someone says ‘I love you’, the first time meeting the parents, etc. I know that we all have been enthralled with the newness at some point or another, but this takes it a step further only because it’s like she’s having a premonition–or maybe its just wishful thinking. The cynic in me (I’m a Libra, so there’s that conflict) thinks she’s kinda being presumptuous. “I hope that it’s the last first time I say I love you. Hope that it’s the last first, time you say you love me too” I mean all that? But yeah. ALL.THAT. I am also at a point in my life that I don’t really date for fun/leisure so “If you just wanna kick it, then you’re wasting my time, cause my plan is to not just have a hit and quit” suits me perfectly. But I do believe there is some space between THAT, and being betrothed, but that’s me!

LaBakir: Ha! Whether wishful thinking or well thought out scenarios, she definitely paints a picture. Call her Picasso.  But seriously, as you kind of touched on…it seems as though she’s getting a little too far a head of herself.  Though the sentiment is sweet and kind, the lyrics never elude to how her man feels.

And I can totally relate to “If you just wanna kick it, then you’re wasting my time,cause my plan is to not just have a hit and quit”. I’m at a point where I’m not interested in any games, yet I’m not trying to marry the first man that comes along.

Reecie: Also because I’m a geek, I try to imagine Tamia singing this to Grant Hill.

LaBakir: *giggles* I can see her singing to him too.  This is definitely a wonderful wedding song, but not something to play for your dude while still in the dating phase.  It may send him running for the hills. Lauren Conrad.

The end.

Good times! What do you think about my choices? Are you familiar with them? I literally sorted my iPod and pulled them from the top played songs played. I had to resist not using any Raheem DeVaughn, since I play so much of his stuff.

Asking for your favorite love songs would be too broad (I’m sure we call could go on forever and ever) but maybe others from the artists we featured: Jackson 5, Erykah Badu, Mary J. Blige & Tamia? Let me know in the comments. 🙂


6 responses to “Necessary Commentary, Pt. 2: Love Songs

  1. LaBakir says:

    Don’t even get me started on Raheem DeVaughn!! That man got some SONGS!

  2. Ms. Minx says:

    Tamia – “You put a move on my heart” from Jook Joint was EVERYTHING to me at one point, but apart from that, and her other commercially popular songs, I’ve never really listened to her. I’ve certainly never heard this one.
    As for Mary, I enjoy her yellin’ ass, lol. I think I like listening to her/her older music more now than before, cuz I couldn’t really “feel” them then. Not that I’ve felt a majority of those feelings NOW, but I can see where she’s coming from. In HS…not so much, lol.

    another great collabo, ladies 😉

  3. Erika says:

    I had never heard the Mary track before, so I cringed upon clicking “play” – anything after a certain point, for Mary, gets the auto-screw face… but once I heard that 90s beat I was straight, LOL. Love it!

    That Tamia song was syrupy sweet (LOL) but I think it’s appropriate – if you do the “dating” thing right, then your first kiss IS all magical and sweet and giddy with flying unicorns and fairies sprinkling dust like somethin’ out of a Disney flick anyway, right? LOL

  4. TiffNicky says:

    So…yes! Lol.

    This is when I LOVED Mary. I know it’s wrong, but when that woman was going through some things she sang songs I could feel in my soul. This is no exception. I love this album. LOVE. Love will make you do some crazy things and hold on when you know you should run…it makes me feel better knowing it doesn’t just happen to “regular” people…though this isn’t my favorite on the album, I love the song.

    Now on to Tamia. First, you know that’s my girl. My girl crush to be exact. Lol. I LOVE this song. The lyrics paint a beautiful picture as you both said above. Although one may argue it’s not a realistic picture, it’s the picture that most would LIKE to have of their own love. As you pointed out, “The answer to a prayer I haven’t prayed…” That’s beautiful, and we all want it. We may fall in love with someone for reasons we know, but how much more powerful is it to find the added bonuses we didn’t know we needed? What?! Girl bye! Lol.

    I’m with both of you on the dating thing. I’m somewhere in between…I actually had a FB status debate about this last night (blog post coming soon). At the end of the day, don’t waste my time. I’m not saying marry me tomorrow, but if all you want is a fly-by-night fling, I’m not your girl. I want substance, something I can hold on to and potentially…my last first kiss!


  5. Reina says:

    I am a new fan of Mary J. Blige, and I’m just recently discovering her first albums. I think my sheltered life at the time kept me from relating, but now that I’m older and have experienced things, I can definitely relate to her now. I’ll have to explore this song more.

    As for Tamia, I adore and I adore this song. I take my love sickeningly sweet with a side of unimaginable expectations, and this song is definitely that. I love Tamia. You Put A Move On My Heart gets constant plays on my IPOD.

    Great idea, ladies!

  6. lova says:

    ooooo! great post, ladies!

    i am, admittedly, not a huge mary j. fan. i used to be, but she lost me after this cd. or i lost her. whichever. but, um…this song is one of my faves. all-time. i agree with you…her raw emotion is what grabs you immediately. (in all her songs)

    now…the tamia joint…never heard it ’til now. and, “syrupy” as it may be, i do like it. the line about the prayer put me under. like, forrreal? #swoon

    thanks for the collabo, ladies…hopefully, you will do it again!

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