when you really are a gem… word to L Boogie.
This post really has nothing to do with music, but I guess I can tie it in someway. I heard this song this morning and it inspired me to post. I like to call this a personal blog about my relationship with music–not a music blog since I don’t really post exclusives, just what I’m feeling at the time…
So what I’m feeling. the title of this post. womankind—we need to stop pretending to be hard rocks. Well I guess all arent pretending. I know I joke all the time that I’m a “thug” and I truly am I product of my environment which means I’ve been exposed to some things, I’ve seen some things, and I know some things. But seriously. I’m a grown woman with degrees and a career that requires me to uphold and adhere to the law. I aint a thug. lol I’m way too girly to be a thug. But I am multi faceted so high heels and mascara isn’t ALL of me–I’ve been known to rock Nikes and Timbs too…well mostly flip flops these days since it hot as hades. anyway…
It’s been three weeks since you’ve been looking for your friend
The one you let hit it and never called you again
‘Member when he told you he was ’bout the Benjamin’s
You act like you ain’t hear him then gave him a little trim
To begin, how you think you really gon’ pretend
Like you wasn’t down then you called him again
Plus when you give it up so easy you ain’t even foolin’ him…
I felt L Boogie because I feel like today men and women are trying too hard to be something that they are not. For instance when some folks act like there is no emotional attachment to sex. Like I know some can do that but its not NORMAL. its supposed to be emotional. Nothing wrong with that. stop being a hard rock–its okay to be a gem! Gems sparkle! its okay to FEEL. The older I get the more I take ownership for being a feeler. I’m emotional, I’m compassionate, and I express myself freely. Its really not that difficult, well unless it is. This totally goes for men too but thats another topic…
So yesterday I’m reading a book–this is what I do on Sundays since I don’t watch football, btw. Sugar by Bernice McFadden is the book and way the character Pearl describes her future husband Joe made me SWOON. The strong, silent type. A gentleman but still he didn’t ask you things, he told them to you. But not in a demanding way that would make womanfolk roll their eyes and point and curse–just knowing, assertive. Articulate. Dedicated to protecting his woman. I think I said out loud–and was tempted to tweet: “I wish I could’ve lived in that time when men truly personified chivalry, protection and just make you want to trust your lives with them.” Just a random thought.
The second verse is dedicated to the men
More concerned with his rims and his Timbs than his women
Him and his men come in the club like hooligans
Don’t care who they offend popping yang like you got yen
Let’s not pretend, they wanna pack pistol by they waist men
Cristal by the case men, still in they mother’s basement
The pretty face men, claiming that they did a bid men
Need to take care of their three and four kids then
I dont even need to get into this verse because I feel like everybody knows what a problem this is. There is one thing I CANNOT stand it is a man that feels the need to “buy out the bar” or floss in a club. I like to have a good time, I like to drink for free–who doesn’t? But I don’t like flashy dudes. I like STYLISH men, but seriously you don’t have to pretend for me. Be who you are. Ain’t no future in your frontin’. I really feel some kinda way about men that don’t take care of their children. I think I spoke on that in an old post about that crazy movie Pregnancy Pact that came on earlier this year. So I won’t go into that again.
I know this post is kinda all over the place with random topics and opinions, but anyway just felt like Lauryn was on to something with “Doo Wop (That Thing).”
The major premise of this song is treat people and yourself with dignity, be true to your standards and belief systems. Like something I said last week on the twitter: say what you mean, mean what you say, then execute. Basically I feel like both genders could stand to be a bit NICER to each other. I think thats a good start to building good relationships and establishing respect.
